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Malay Mores & Taboos

By Penghulu - Posted on 14 May 2010

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Do's and don'ts in dealing socially with the Malays. This article will help you win friends and influence people.


Barefoot in the House
If you enter a Muslim home, it is best to remove your shoes. Muslims are sticklers for cleanliness; and one does not know what dirt the shoes will bring into the house. Often , common areas such as the living room are used for group prayers.
For the Muslim, contact with faeces, for example, requires vigourous washing with water and clay. It will greatly inconvenience your host to have to clean the house in this way.
Reader Sahaly Limat has this comment to make:
If I remembered my religious classes correctly, Faeces are of Najis they only need to be washed with water until there is no smell, no colur and no other words until there is no sign of it left. We are only required to wash with water and clay when we come in contact with Najis Mughalafah( the heaviest one) which encompasses anything related to pigs and dogs.  

Quran 60:10

O ye who believe! When there come to you believing women refugees, examine (and test) them: Allah knows best as to their Faith: if ye ascertain that they are Believers, then send them not back to the Unbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the Unbelievers, nor are the (Unbelievers) lawful (husbands) for them. But pay the Unbelievers what they have spent (on their dower), and there will be no blame on you if ye marry them on payment of their dower to them. But hold not to the guardianship of unbelieving women: ask for what ye have spent on their dowers, and let the (Unbelievers) ask for what they have spent (on the dowers of women who come over to you). Such is the command of Allah: He judges (with justice) between you. And Allah is Full of Knowledge and Wisdom.

Awards & Mentions


TIME Magazine, 16 Dec. 1996
"A must for on-line believers in Southeast Asia."
-- TIME, Dec. 16, 1996